Love your self before you love someone else

          Love Your Self

             We must love ourselves more than love others. Loving ourselves means that we must provide self-calm and away from the pressure that hurts ourselves mentally. Pressure is natural to come on everyone if we are still living in a world that is very harsh and often throws ourselves into the abyss of adversity. If we cannot handle and protect ourselves from all calamities and trials that come to us at any time without knowing the day, without knowing the night, or without knowing the situation and conditions. One of the ways we can do to fortify ourselves from all calamities and trials is to create happiness, simple happiness that will become meaningful if we are in a condition that is not profitable at all.

Not only because of the pressure that always arises from all over the place, feelings of compassion for ourselves can also wear off if we continue to hurt ourselves. In that case, what is called "hurting yourself"? Self-harm here is meant to create a problem that we can actually avoid and ignore from our minds. For example jealousy. Envy will hurt us indirectly. We become not self-acknowledged, we do not realize that we can and we are superior, but in other fields, it doesn't have to be the same as what they achieve. Another example of hurting ourselves is by imposing other people's standards on us. In modern times, especially z-gen tend to use the standard of living of others in living life. As an example, a person will consider himself worthy if and only if he owns an iPhone branded cellphone. There are still many things that make us sick, but we can actually throw them away. Hurting ourselves won't do us any good in our lives. Therefore, we should not hurt ourselves, because hurting ourselves will actually cause us to be worse off and unable to love ourselves. Harming ourselves will personally cause us mental and spiritual pain. because hurting ourselves will actually make us worse off and unable to love ourselves. Harming ourselves will personally cause us mental and spiritual pain. because hurting ourselves will actually make us worse off and unable to love ourselves. Harming ourselves will personally cause us mental and spiritual pain.

How can you avoid stress and self-injurious attitudes? The way that can be taken is to " love your self". Like the words that often circulate Love your self before you love someone else'love yourself before loving anyone else'. Loving yourself here means accepting yourself, controlling yourself and controlling your desires, and respecting yourself. Loving yourself will provide encouragement in living life and give strength in walking step by step the story thread that we do not know the end - which we call the way of life -. Loving ourselves does not mean making ourselves narcissistic, but rather building confidence in facing and facing life's challenges that come unexpectedly.

So, how do you love yourself? Here I will list how to love myself according to my version.

1.      Be grateful

With gratitude, it means that we have accepted what happened to us and are grateful for the grace He has given. Gratitude is also a way to strengthen mentally and spiritually in facing all the challenges that stand in your way.

2.      Pray

Loving ourselves is not only about worldliness, but also about spiritual health, which is our relationship with our Lord. It is God who controls all things, challenges, tests and gives strength to us as part of His creation.

3.      Enjoy hobbies

Doing hobbies means we make ourselves happy, happy is a part of loving ourselves because it has brought positive things in our feelings and mentality.

4.      Forgive your own mistakes

Make peace with personally and try to forgive and apologize for all the mistakes we have done, whether intentional or unintentional. Mistakes that continue to be buried and endured will become a burden too late to be overcome.

5.      Dare to say no

Rejecting substances for which you are not obligated and giving yourself time to rest are essential to self-love. Saying does not mean that we are arrogant, but rather a person who can distinguish what is our obligation and what is not our obligation.

6.      Believe in yourself

Believing in ourselves means that we believe in the results of hard work, abilities, and strengths that are within us. Self-confidence is the key to success in doing something, whether it's casual or even in serious situations. We must continue to believe in the abilities that are within us, or even increase these abilities and self-confidence.

7.      Ignore what people say that is not positive

Talk that is not important and negative in nature we should ignore because it will not make any progress for us personally. Negative talk is one of the things that undermines our happiness and self-appreciation. Bad talk also lowers self-confidence and will have an impact on our daily lives. Therefore we have to know what is not good talk.

8.      Expanding social life

Expanding relationships will make friends and get to know various characters, so that we don't feel like the most unlucky ones or feel ourselves alone. Having lots of friends means you can share stories and complain about every problem and difficulty you experience.

9.      Be honest with yourself

Self-love is done if we can be honest with ourselves, be ourselves, and don't make up so that we can be seen by others. Being honest with yourself means that you can accept yourself completely. Acceptance of yourself means loving yourself completely. Already free from the name of standardizing other people's standards against oneself.

10.  Make time for vacation

Vacation is not defined as just a meaningless activity. During vacation, we can also add insight that we previously did not get in lectures or the world of work. Vacationing will produce a feeling of pleasure so that we can create a condition that allows us to be released from all the heavy burdens that we have previously carried for a long time. The burden is gone, the feeling is also relieved!

11   Learn to control emotions

rr Uncontrolled emotions are part of self-torture. Why? because if we are emotional, we cannot control everything, we tend to regret what we have done so that it creates a burden that will remain an imprint on the deep inside of our heart. So it's good for us to control our emotions starting from simple things so that things don't happen that we want and cause regrets in a long time.          

That's how I understand and appreciate myself through " love your self before you love someone else" . There's no point in us feeling depressed, there's no point in hurting ourselves. From now on, let's love ourselves, respect ourselves more than anyone, and don't forget to do the things that I have mentioned above. Hopefully we can still love ourselves and be free from mental illness. That is all from me